he's been gone for so long. literally and figuratively speaking
its nice to have him back
we were talking about relationships. the purpose of them. the importance of them.
we see things differently- which is to be expected coming from two genders
and after the age of 16 two completely different households,
but its funny what we do think is similar.
he was surprised that i agreed with him on the things i did. was shocked by what i refuted. but we always play verbal chess. i always win, he always tries....but it keeps our discussion skills a bit higher than the average person...my family prides itself on our intelligence...thus we spend most of our time challenging each other
it makes for great family gatherings
anyway. my brother looks at relationship as mergers. i guess thats bound to happen when you're in school too long and all you talk about all day is business.
he explained to my the game theory. that the only way someone is going to stay in a relationship is if there is a strong enough incentive for them to remain there.
i asked him about love
he said you could get those anywhere...hell he had a comforter that did all of those
love isn't enough to stay married
I explained that what he talked about- this incentive- we don't have that in American society. I don't need to stay with anyone. i can do it all by myself. in other cultures perhaps that would work
he agreed. he said that marriage went down with women's rights
he expected me to refute it
when women didn't have a choice of course they were forced to remain married.
now there's not point for me to get married- other than my own need to be with someone
he said Need. thats the only way you'll stay there. and if you don't need it you won't
need that other person to be whole...
i asked him
were ever in a relationship that once it was over you didn't know who you were anymore
so there's the difference. i have. i never want to be there again. where he feels like he needs me to be him. and i'm nothing alone. i don't want to be needed like that again. i never want to feel like that again
when you go into a relationship you should be able to stand on your own two feet alone
he was silent
i guess we both have our own relationship issues
naive where we should be jaded
jaded where we should be naive
my family is made up of contradictions
we ended up just agreeing to disagree...
but it was nice to see the world through his eyes for a night