the worst part of a breakup is
when you realize it doesn't hurt anymore...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mVEG793G3N4
on a higher note i'm accepting applications for a Valentine....any takers?
Friday, February 5, 2010
Saturday, January 16, 2010
happily ever after
I had a realization the other days...life isn't like one of those fairy tales you read.
People don't always end up with a happy ending. People don't always find their mister right...or if they do they don't always end up with them.
i've always lived in this kind of fantasy world...everytime i meet someone i think it might just work. that things are going to be perfect. life is gonna end with a happily ever after...with someone who loves you who happens to be sitting on a trust fund or some sort of noble title (lol...) but thats not reality.
people end up right where I am...halfway there or not even. some ppl just end up somewhere else and thats it.
story over....
no new game...no pass go and receive $200.
sometimes thats how the story goes
i always took that for granted
but this isn't the end of my story...this isn't even the middle yet.
and i know there is more to come for me.
People don't always end up with a happy ending. People don't always find their mister right...or if they do they don't always end up with them.
i've always lived in this kind of fantasy world...everytime i meet someone i think it might just work. that things are going to be perfect. life is gonna end with a happily ever after...with someone who loves you who happens to be sitting on a trust fund or some sort of noble title (lol...) but thats not reality.
people end up right where I am...halfway there or not even. some ppl just end up somewhere else and thats it.
story over....
no new game...no pass go and receive $200.
sometimes thats how the story goes
i always took that for granted
but this isn't the end of my story...this isn't even the middle yet.
and i know there is more to come for me.
Monday, January 4, 2010
stolen from Nicole
a friend of mine posted this on her facebook. I thought it was interesting so here it is:
posted by Nicole 1/2/10
**I KNOW THAT IN NO WAY DOES THIS SPEAK 4 THE ENTIRE BODY OF WHITE WOMEN... ITS INTERESTING THOUGH... PLEASE RESPOND FRIENDS :)
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a 20
year old
Caucasian woman,who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she
got what she asked for (and more) !!!
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a good looking,educated and loving
Black man. I just don't understand a lot of Black females
attitudes about our relationship.
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women
were slim to none.. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too
mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too
much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached
by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world.. If
Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't
they look at themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in
public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so
appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley,
Scottie Pippen , the model Tyson Beckford , Montell Williams, Quincy
Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte , Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan,
Cuba Gooding Jr .., Don Cornelius , Berry Gordy , Billy Blanks , Larry
Fishburne, Wesley Snipes ...
I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why
I wrote this so hurriedly . Don't be mad with us White women because so
many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and
we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let
me know..
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE ____________________________________
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated
from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with
a
Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a
major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider
myself to be among the ranks of successful Black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to
set the record straight of why Black men date white women.. Back in the
day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was
because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were
very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it
to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone
who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to
the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they
are docile and easy to control. A lot of Black men, because of
insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by
the strength of our Black women. We are afraid that our woman will be
more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and
own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many Black men look for a more
docile woman. Someone we can control.
I have talked to numerous Black men and they continuously comment on how
easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to
set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not
all successful Black men date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad , Denzel Washington , Michael Jordan, Morris
Chestnut , Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds ,
Samuel L. Jackson , and Chris Rock all married strong Black women. And,
to
flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot
light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted
Danson , Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie and Robin Thicke , to name a
few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop
thinking
that because you are 20 and white, you are some type of goddess.
Remember, when Black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were
ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt , you were over in the caves
of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with
clubs. Read your history!
It was the Black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food.
It was the Black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It
was Black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during
slavery.
It is the Black woman that had to endure watching their fathers,
husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women
were born with two strikes against them; being Black and being a woman.
And, through all this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the Black women's strength, elegance, power, love and
beauty that I could never date anyone except my Black Queen. It is not
just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not
the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I
love them.
Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Black women.
Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their
ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what
they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their
highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have
fallen in love with black women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and
envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you
continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so
proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin?
Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with
unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more
voluptuous like Black women?
Goood Morning
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what
the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk
over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am
looking for a Virtuous Woman . Someone that can be a good wife and
mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands
my struggles. I am
looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately,
you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty
posted by Nicole 1/2/10
**I KNOW THAT IN NO WAY DOES THIS SPEAK 4 THE ENTIRE BODY OF WHITE WOMEN... ITS INTERESTING THOUGH... PLEASE RESPOND FRIENDS :)
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a 20
year old
Caucasian woman,who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she
got what she asked for (and more) !!!
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a good looking,educated and loving
Black man. I just don't understand a lot of Black females
attitudes about our relationship.
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women
were slim to none.. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too
mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too
much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached
by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world.. If
Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't
they look at themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in
public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so
appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley,
Scottie Pippen , the model Tyson Beckford , Montell Williams, Quincy
Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte , Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan,
Cuba Gooding Jr .., Don Cornelius , Berry Gordy , Billy Blanks , Larry
Fishburne, Wesley Snipes ...
I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why
I wrote this so hurriedly . Don't be mad with us White women because so
many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and
we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let
me know..
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE ____________________________________
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated
from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with
a
Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a
major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider
myself to be among the ranks of successful Black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to
set the record straight of why Black men date white women.. Back in the
day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was
because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were
very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it
to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone
who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to
the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they
are docile and easy to control. A lot of Black men, because of
insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by
the strength of our Black women. We are afraid that our woman will be
more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and
own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many Black men look for a more
docile woman. Someone we can control.
I have talked to numerous Black men and they continuously comment on how
easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to
set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not
all successful Black men date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad , Denzel Washington , Michael Jordan, Morris
Chestnut , Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds ,
Samuel L. Jackson , and Chris Rock all married strong Black women. And,
to
flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot
light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted
Danson , Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie and Robin Thicke , to name a
few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop
thinking
that because you are 20 and white, you are some type of goddess.
Remember, when Black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were
ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt , you were over in the caves
of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with
clubs. Read your history!
It was the Black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food.
It was the Black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It
was Black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during
slavery.
It is the Black woman that had to endure watching their fathers,
husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women
were born with two strikes against them; being Black and being a woman.
And, through all this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the Black women's strength, elegance, power, love and
beauty that I could never date anyone except my Black Queen. It is not
just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not
the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I
love them.
Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Black women.
Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their
ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what
they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their
highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have
fallen in love with black women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and
envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you
continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so
proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin?
Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with
unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more
voluptuous like Black women?
Goood Morning
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what
the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk
over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am
looking for a Virtuous Woman . Someone that can be a good wife and
mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands
my struggles. I am
looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately,
you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty
Friday, January 1, 2010
i think you should reevaluate your skinny jeans
!!!Happy New Year!!!
I rang in the new year with the ladies at Hogates, It was a nice night with its many ups and downs. VIP was amazing, main floor was wack and my feel feel like i was drop kicking bricks...or walking the streets of DC without shoes on - which at one point did happen.
all in all it was a good night. I dunno if Id mix those 3 girls again. Ashley was a little out of place and made it known. Isis and Cici were going with the flow as usual. the stories i could tell would take weeks...so i'll just wait and tell you about it later.
plans for tonight fell through. Trey Songz came to town and literally closed the club down. for 96 hours. I'm taking this as a sign- this is what? the 3rd time 4th time? that Drake has come to town to perform that I will not be seeing him. My sister finally told me it's time to just "let him go..."
so here I am letting him go.... :-(
so we'll see whats good for tomorrow night. its only friday so I'll just keep it moving...
I rang in the new year with the ladies at Hogates, It was a nice night with its many ups and downs. VIP was amazing, main floor was wack and my feel feel like i was drop kicking bricks...or walking the streets of DC without shoes on - which at one point did happen.
all in all it was a good night. I dunno if Id mix those 3 girls again. Ashley was a little out of place and made it known. Isis and Cici were going with the flow as usual. the stories i could tell would take weeks...so i'll just wait and tell you about it later.
plans for tonight fell through. Trey Songz came to town and literally closed the club down. for 96 hours. I'm taking this as a sign- this is what? the 3rd time 4th time? that Drake has come to town to perform that I will not be seeing him. My sister finally told me it's time to just "let him go..."
so here I am letting him go.... :-(
so we'll see whats good for tomorrow night. its only friday so I'll just keep it moving...
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
i'm that girl
so I have a secret: I'm in love...
awkward enough i know...what makes it worse is i've never met the guy. I've never been one to have celebrity crushes, but here I am with my first (and hopefully last) celebrity infatuation. (not counting my elementary crush on Leonardo DiCaprio...
but lets be serious who didn't love him in the late 90's?)
anyway. I am 23 years old and here I am without even an excuse for the crush. but what makes it worse is its not even sexual (don't get me wrong it could be...) but its really intellectual. I mean I want to curl up in a corner with him, sipping tea with lemon
and just banter. I want to trade letters and words, and see what he thinks when I say this and find something clever to say when he says that. I want to listen to his explanations to his ideas. I want to see his passion born. I want to be the fly on the wall while he comes up with the lyrics that somehow speak to me...
ewww...i'm that girl.
so its almost new years and the plans have been made and he's coming to town. for the 3rd time to be in fact. (well to be accurate he didn't show the first time). Anyway each time i've somehow been unable to be in attendance to his concerts until now. Now I know that nothing is going to come of this. I know there are three thousand ppl who will be there...but that hasn't stopped my over active imagination to creating this ideal situation where he sees me and i become his muse. His ideal. love at first site...like the first time i heard him and i didn't even know who he was...
but hey a girl is allowed to dream right?
so i'll just continue from chapter 10 of my day dream where we're currently vacationing in our villa in the south of france. I think his mother's coming to visit and I have a lasagna warming in the oven...its so warm out today. I've always loved visiting here...the sound of the shore... the humming of the waves...his senseless chatter while he plans his summer tour in the states...
sometimes its only acceptable to delve into your daydreams
awkward enough i know...what makes it worse is i've never met the guy. I've never been one to have celebrity crushes, but here I am with my first (and hopefully last) celebrity infatuation. (not counting my elementary crush on Leonardo DiCaprio...
but lets be serious who didn't love him in the late 90's?)anyway. I am 23 years old and here I am without even an excuse for the crush. but what makes it worse is its not even sexual (don't get me wrong it could be...) but its really intellectual. I mean I want to curl up in a corner with him, sipping tea with lemon
and just banter. I want to trade letters and words, and see what he thinks when I say this and find something clever to say when he says that. I want to listen to his explanations to his ideas. I want to see his passion born. I want to be the fly on the wall while he comes up with the lyrics that somehow speak to me...ewww...i'm that girl.
so its almost new years and the plans have been made and he's coming to town. for the 3rd time to be in fact. (well to be accurate he didn't show the first time). Anyway each time i've somehow been unable to be in attendance to his concerts until now. Now I know that nothing is going to come of this. I know there are three thousand ppl who will be there...but that hasn't stopped my over active imagination to creating this ideal situation where he sees me and i become his muse. His ideal. love at first site...like the first time i heard him and i didn't even know who he was...
but hey a girl is allowed to dream right?
so i'll just continue from chapter 10 of my day dream where we're currently vacationing in our villa in the south of france. I think his mother's coming to visit and I have a lasagna warming in the oven...its so warm out today. I've always loved visiting here...the sound of the shore... the humming of the waves...his senseless chatter while he plans his summer tour in the states...
sometimes its only acceptable to delve into your daydreams
Dear 2009, good try but you lost...i made it
I've been thinking of new years resolution. My friend Roses posted his on facebook...as usual it was an essay of sorts explaining his past achievements and naming his future goals. He used to be more subtle and poetic- he says he's grown up...i think he's lost the love of words and its a little sad to know that that could happen.
so all day long i've been trying to figure out what my resolution is and i think i've figured it out. Its not to go to the gym everyday - even though i could lose those 20 pounds that i've been putting off for years and i know i won't carry it out anyway.
its not to get into school even though i've been applying and really hoping that i will. its not even to get straight A's - even though I have done that in the past and would be absolutely amazing.
its to stand up for myself.
bland i know...but its that one thing that i always forget to do. i work so hard to make everyone else happy that i don't stop to think about myself....and call it selfish - fine...but its about time that i try something for me.
in the words of my coworker "keep it movin." If you're not around to help me succeed you can move right on...because i don't have time for it
so all day long i've been trying to figure out what my resolution is and i think i've figured it out. Its not to go to the gym everyday - even though i could lose those 20 pounds that i've been putting off for years and i know i won't carry it out anyway.
its not to get into school even though i've been applying and really hoping that i will. its not even to get straight A's - even though I have done that in the past and would be absolutely amazing.
its to stand up for myself.
bland i know...but its that one thing that i always forget to do. i work so hard to make everyone else happy that i don't stop to think about myself....and call it selfish - fine...but its about time that i try something for me.
in the words of my coworker "keep it movin." If you're not around to help me succeed you can move right on...because i don't have time for it
Monday, December 28, 2009
black men?
so I'm a religious follower of Mediatakeout.com - I accept my flaws and my addictions...hopefully one day i'll be able to get past them...
anyway this was up there today.
there were hundreds of comments with people saying that this was a lie. I hope it is- but numbers don't lie.
at one point Steve Harvey said "you don't have to settle, but maybe you should compromise." but isn't a compromise simply another word for settling. I'm not saying that there's no one out there or that all black men aren't reaching their maximum potential - i'm simply saying that with so many black women working so hard to reach a certain level that once they reach it the chances of finding a black men with equal or greater achievements are slim.
hopefully this is just an over exaggeration.
anyway this was up there today.
there were hundreds of comments with people saying that this was a lie. I hope it is- but numbers don't lie.
at one point Steve Harvey said "you don't have to settle, but maybe you should compromise." but isn't a compromise simply another word for settling. I'm not saying that there's no one out there or that all black men aren't reaching their maximum potential - i'm simply saying that with so many black women working so hard to reach a certain level that once they reach it the chances of finding a black men with equal or greater achievements are slim.
hopefully this is just an over exaggeration.
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